WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT YOUR CHILD.

RAISING OR REARING YOUR CHILD?

It’s human nature for us to want to keep our kids smiling and cheerful. But you know what? If our kids never get mad at us, or get frustrated or become disappointed, that might be a warning sign that we aren’t doing our job as parents. In other hand we are just rearing that child, not raising him.

I got amazed as how you as a parent will put in your best to bring up your child, only for that child to turn out not just the right way and you wonder want went wrong. Maybe your best wasn’t just enough. I know you want to get mad at me for saying just that, but before you do let us just take a look at one truth about it. Follow me to the book of proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. So you see the training lies in your hand. Is either you are raising that child or you are rearing your which. How will your child learn to deal with frustration and disappointment if they never have any practice? How will your child learn self-discipline if you don’t teach him? It is your job to teach these important life lessons to your child before it is too late. It is a well-known fact that the only manner in which an over pampered child may be made to become useful is by forcing that child to become self-sustaining. And the time to do it is now not tomorrow because it may be too late.

Raising a child is more demanding than rearing your child. In rearing a child you give that child almost everything the child asked for directly or indirectly, and to you, you are just doing the right thing. That is rearing your child and it leads to unhappy ending, where you wonder “what went wrong” I did all I should do as a parent, I gave him/her all to make him/her happy yet this is what I got in return. There’s more to life then all we see. Remember the teenager doesn’t wake up one morning and decide he doesn’t have any respect for his parents. You’ve been rearing that child without known. (Proverbs 22:13-14) “Withhold not correction from the child...” Help that child to turn out right in future.

KNOW THIS:

Some parents would disagree, perhaps saying that you should reason with your child, explain yourself, or even negotiate. But avoid saying no, they urge, for fear that it will make your child feel resentful. True, the word “no” might initially disappoint your child. Nevertheless, it teaches him vital lesson, which in real world, there are limits by which people must abide. By giving in, on the hand, you weaken your authority and teach your child to manipulate you by whining every time he wants something. Over time, your response could make him resentful. After all, how much can a child respect an easily manipulated parent? “Discipline your child while there is hope” proverbs 19:18. Please raise that child, not rear him for a better tomorrow!